Turrets & Crenellations

In the modern-day world as much as the importance of ‘Non-Attachment’ is being proposed, even more so is the rapid increase of misunderstanding associated with it. Cold callousness, arrogant apathy, dire disinterest or uncouth unresponsiveness… are just some of the conjectured thoughts that come up with the word.

ASSUMPTION

Attachment, as we all know brings with it a huge quilt of expectations. Expectations which are often camouflaged and restrictive. The bottle neck, that reduces the inner landscape, decreases clarity of purpose and fogs intent. What we often don’t realize is that we are creating our own tunnels, our own turrets and our very own crenellations.

SUFFOCATION!

Conjectured layer of promises, prospects and designs of how things should be, what conclusions should be, how reactions and actions should be…like a potato dauphinoise thinly sliced, seamed in with flavored cream, spices and sometimes cheese – A luxurious side dish at the end of the day

FRENCH

Little do we know that this very quilt, which might originally seem protective and snug will leave us naked and exposed. Not to anyone else, but to ourselves only. The fort of innate security comes crashing down the moment things don’t happen the way they shouldhave been.

SUFFERING!

And then comes the real catch, that if you don’t have expectations then you are probably indifferent. The fear of becoming a ruthless, cold creature, or arrogant keeps taking us back to tethered ropes where we seem to think that unless we bring the boat back we won’t be successful. Attaching success to people, situations and things – in turn identifying with incompleteness.

PUZZLE

Non-attachment is really not any of the above. In simple terms it is not adhering to anything and acceptance of everything. Certainly not, does it imply that there is lack of warmth, purpose or intent – in fact if anything it is just that and so much more. Warmth of inner spaciousness, purpose of the development of spiritual muscle and intent of acceptance.

BREATH

Whether it is work, relationships, food preparation, sport drills or yoga practices – all we do is charge ahead with full force and an honest resolve, without waiting for the ideal outcome. In fact, there is no outcome because that would mean that we are forging ahead of time and not really enjoying the continuity of the present moments. Primarily not clinging to thoughts, results, rebuttals, destabilizers, brokenness, failures and frustrations! And open and whole heartedly submitting, accepting – what was, what is and what will be!

AH! RESPITE

Featured Photo: A tunnel-eye view of Dubrovnik City, Croatia

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Last year I was at a gathering where the chatter across the room was reaching unsurmountable heights, primarily in terms of noise. I was straining my ears to try and comprehend at least some part of it, as expected I failed miserably.

When the room did go quiet (some Godsent silence cloak) I managed to whisper “ I think we don’t know how to listen, we listen only to…” and before I could finish my meagre sentence there was an uproar of “I knowwww riggghhttttt.” Instantly I adorned a smile and squirmed back into my social shell (which, by the way I have started carrying with me everywhere now).

Agree that there is much to say, and once said, we are instantly preparing responses to our own verdicts rather than waiting , breathing and just letting things be.

We often say things to receive a response, however the reception of that response is often pre-conceived, in our own fabrications and notions. The actual words never reach our ears, because long before, they have been robbed of their subtle element by the artillery called ‘impatience’ and what really does fall on our ear drum is just a beat that we chose to play.

But then how do we tune into our own broken strings if there is a perpetual hum drum on the outside?

Listening requires effort, because it is a mix of patience, non-judgement and complacency that we don’t have to respond if we don’t have anything substantial to say.  But the human ego only gets massaged when it is heard loud and clear, the need to be heard is always jumping leaps ahead than the patience to hear.

When we fail to listen to others’ patiently, we must realize that we are ignoring our own inner clankings as well. Perhaps our confusions want a solution, or maybe our body is sending a message or perhaps our emotions want an ear. Sometimes the emphatic denial of our inner voice makes our outwardly voice so strong that we are unable to listen to others and us!

Featured Photograph : Kotor, a quaint, picturesque little town in Montenegro